Sully Iqbal

Creator, Entertainer, Smile Maker

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Living alone in London - part 1

At the age of 20, after being a 3-time university drop out, I'm finally living on my tod in London. It's been about two weeks, and surprisingly I've not gotten the urge to run back to the safety of my home and my mothers home cooked meals. (Although as a single South-Asian male this was probably the biggest adjustment I had to face.)

I've always been a person who spent a lot of time on their own. I've never really felt the urge to go out with others, and the one time I've been clubbing, I was lost beyond belief. Does this make me weird? Perhaps. But I'm just being me.

However, moving to London as seemed to have changed my perception of 'hanging out'. I now crave having people to spend time with, and honestly somewhat regret my decision to live on my own, because I 'don't like sharing'.

However, it's best not to dwell on past decision, but to focus on those to come. (As long as you learn from those decisions.) So what do I do now? I have two people in my life I'd consider close friends, those who I'd consider my "ride or die's'". Unfortunately, they both live a considerable distance from me. I could continue to sit in my flat on my own, play some PlayStation (yes I'm a PlayStation guy) and read a book. However, not only does this ramp up my electricity bill, but it's unhealthy.


How to literally Ride or Die

Don't get me wrong, it's good to be able to be alone and enjoy yourself, but if that's all you do, it's going to get pretty toxic. You're the only person you listen to, all your ideas, all your perceptions become one dimensional. You need others around you to help you mould into a well-defined character. People to give you experiences, make you question your perspective and simply socialise. 

So getting back to my 'what now' scenario. Well at the behest of one of my "ride or die's" I downloaded the Meetup app in an attempt to meet new people. It's intuitive and filled with groups of people doing weird and wonderful things to survive in this crazy city.

Moving a big city is a huge culture shock, especially if you're as introverted as me. It's going to be a long hard slog to become a proper 'Londoner'. But in the words or Wiz Khalifa you 'Gotta Go Hard or Go Home'.

Example of poper Londoner

Example of poper Londoner